Jay*’s determination to rebuild his life led him to new opportunities, supportive connections and a clearer sense of independence. With the stability and guidance he found at YMCA DownsLink Group along the way, he’s been able to grow his confidence and move towards a future shaped by his own ambitions.
From early childhood Jay grew up with his adoptive family. In his early teens, things at home became increasingly difficult, and concerns for his safety meant moving into alternative care.
He spent a short period with foster carers while continuing college locally, before moving to supported lodgings further away. Having his own space gave him the stability he needed to rebuild his confidence, and he enjoyed working nearby.
A later wrongful accusation – eventually proven to be unfounded – had a significant impact on his sense of security. The restrictions placed on him during the investigation made it difficult to keep his job, and the loss of work, routine and relationships left him feeling overwhelmed. Jay reflects:
“I was referred to YMCA DownsLink Group and moved into supported housing. Because I was under 18 and struggling emotionally, I began in a smaller unit. After turning 18, I moved into the main building and gained more independence, which helped me grow a lot.
I built a good relationship with one of my support workers. Being close in age meant we shared similar interests, and it felt easier to talk about things. I started going to the Chaplaincy dinners too. I still go back when I can – it’s a nice way to stay connected, and I’ve even helped with some of the cooking.
“While I was there, staff told me about a men’s mentoring charity. That was a huge turning point. It gave me real connection and had a massive positive impact on my wellbeing. I’m still involved now – I help with some of their work and I’m preparing for mentor training.
“I’ve since moved into transitional housing. It happened quickly, but YMCA DLG staff helped me move which made a huge difference. Now I’m in a shared place, cooking for myself and settling into a quieter routine, which suits me well.
“Music has always been a big grounding tool for me. I have a piano, don’t like performing publicly, but playing helps me manage my emotions and stay calm.
Looking back, I can see how far I’ve come. Moving into transitional housing feels like another step toward the independence I’ve been working hard for.
“My focus now is finding a job so I can eventually get my own place and decide what I want to do next. I keep up with my Jobcentre appointments, I’ve completed the Movement to Work course again, and I’m applying everywhere I can. Constant rejections are tough. Sometimes I worry that my neurodivergence, my background in care, or gaps in my CV make things harder, but I’m still trying.
“I’ve been involved in a media production project which has opened up new possibilities. People said I have a good speaking voice and that I’m articulate, so now I’m thinking about whether voiceover work or podcasting could be an option. The project gave me opportunities I hadn’t even considered before.”
Jay continues to strengthen his coping strategies, develop his independence and explore future career paths. His determination, self-awareness and willingness to engage with opportunities are shaping a future built on stability, confidence and purpose. YMCA DownsLink Group looks forward to seeing where his journey leads next.
*Name and photo have been changed to protect the young person’s identity
