What does WiSE do?

WiSE supports young people around staying safe in relationships, online and in the community. 

We work with young people up to 25 years old.   

At some point in our lives, everyone will need support with relationships. This is regardless of our gender, sexuality or background. We work with lots of different people, who have lots of different experiences, and we can help in lots of different ways.  

Who does WiSE work with?

If you’re a young person who is interested in working with WiSE, it’s important that you know that you’ve already got skills when it comes to keeping safe. Our job is to help you to build on these strengths. 

To do this we work with you, and with the people in your life, towards finding the best ways to support you. 

 Everyone we work with is different: some people want to chat a lot, others not very much. That’s ok, because we are happy to adapt how we work.  

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The experience of pleasure is one of the most vital ingredients in s3x. This doesn’t mean just orgasms - many people struggle with experiencing orgasms and s3x can still be a pleasurable experience.
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Working out what you find pleasurable can be done on your own or with partners, the most important thing is that you feel safe enough to explore it. If you’re being put under pressure to do something, you’re unlikely to feel safe to do it. Remember - if someone isn’t interested in your pleasure, what does it say about them?
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#Consent #ConsentMatters #Pleasure #ConsentCulture #ConsentIsSexy #SexandConsent #SexEducation #HealthyRelationships #Relationships #RelationshipGoals #RelationshipQuotes
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Today is #SaferInternetDay!
Here is some advice from our WiSE Ambassador Lily:

1. Report or hide posts you don't like: You can report posts you find unacceptable or triggering or just hide them from your feed, you'll be less likely to see similar posts after this.

2. Keep personal information personal: Don't share personal details such as your location, where you go to school, or your phone number on social media. Even if your account is private anything you post can be shared through screen shots.

3. Adjust your privacy settings: Make sure you are happy with your privacy settings. On lots of platforms you can change settings for individual posts or types of post as well as your overall account.

4. Check who you follow: As well as only following what makes you happy, its also a good idea to regularly check the pages that you have decided to follow. Sometimes the content people share changes over time or as they get older, and accounts or pages with a big following can even get bought or taken over by someone new.

5. Block: Don't be afraid to block and/or report any accounts you are having trouble with.

#saferinternetday #saferinternetday2021 #internetsafety #socialmediatips #socialmediasafety #stayingsafe
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The first step to having enjoyable sex experiences is figuring out what feels good for you!
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This means noticing and paying attention to what your body enjoys, baring in mind that this could change depending on mood, partner or context.
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Explore by yourself through masturbation and sex toys, or with a partner - just make sure you are able to communicate if you try something new and don’t enjoy it.
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Good communication with yourself is a great first step to being able to communicate with a partner!
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#SexEducation #Consent #ConsentMatters #ConsentCulture #ConsentIsSexy #SexandConsent #HealthyRelationships #Relationships #RelationshipGoals #RelationshipQuotes
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This post from @radicallove.co.uk nicely sums up reasons when consent may not actually be consent.
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Have you ever consented through any of these things? Whether sexual or anything else in life? Have you ever got someone to do something they don’t want to do through fear, guilting, pestering or manipulation?
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#Consent #SexandConsent #SexEducation #Relationships #consentmatters #ConsentCulture #ToxicBehaviour #HealthyRelationship #consentissexy
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Consent is not just about getting the green light for penetrative sex. Consent is also about good communication for all things sexual!
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This video was made by WiSE ambassador Lily @itslilsluv 💕🙌
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{video description: a conversation between two people about consent: “Of course I care about consent, you need it to get laid”, “Yeah that’s true, but it’s about more than just sex”, “... What do you mean?”, “Well, firstly people need to consent to things other than sex, like being touched or getting sent nudes. It shows that you don’t feel entitled to them or their sexuality. It’s just good communication.”, “Ohh, cool!”}
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#consent #consentmatters #consentculture #consentissexy #sexandconsent #sexeducation #healthyrelationships #relationships #relationshipgoals #relationshipquotes
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This one is pretty simple right?
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#consent #sexandconsent #sexeducation #consentmatters #consentculture
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As humans we take validation from lots of different parts of our lives: our friends, our girlfriends/boyfriends, our achievements etc. But it’s important that we place self validation at number 1.
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When we truly value ourselves, it can act as a buffer between us and other people’s sometimes unwanted opinions.
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#confidence #bodyconfidencequotes #selfesteem #selfesteemboost #selfesteembuilding #toxic #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #relationshipquotes #relationshipmemes #relationship #relationships #toxicity #selflove #selflovequotes #selfcare #selfcaretips #selfcarematters
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💪The key difference between exploitation and empowerment lies in who holds the power.
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A situation could feel empowering, however if it doesn’t feel right, or someone else holds some kind of influence over your choices or actions, then it is likely to be exploitative.
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Think about who holds the cards - is it you or is it them? Sometimes we can think it’s us but if someone is making you feel pressured, trapped or like you have to do something you previously didn’t want to do, it may be time to reconsider.
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Empowerment shouldn’t make you feel uncomfortable.
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#empowerment #feminist #feminism #mentalhealth #selfesteem #confidence #mentalhealthawareness #relationships #healthyrelationships #toxicrelationships
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girl3

"I liked that I could talk about taboo subjects and not feel judged"

boyq

"It has helped a lot, I never opened up to professionals, but my WiSE worker helped me to open up and has taken a lot of problems off my shoulders"

girla

"I’ve learnt to be happier, safer and generally more confident with myself"

What can we do to help?

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We can meet you in places where you feel comfortable. For some people this is McDonalds, for some people it’s at school, for some people it’s a youth center or somewhere outside.   

We will work with you to build your own support plan. This means that you help to decide the topics we’ll cover, the type of work you want to do, and how often we meet.  

We are a charitable independent organization, so its your choice if you want to work with us.  If you don’t want to work with us, or decide to stop, that is completely okay. We might have suggestions for other places who might be able to provide you with support or information, if you want that. 

We believe that it’s important to ask young people for their expertise – to help us run our project as well as we can, click this link to our participation page.

If you want to learn more about consent, relationships, or safety you can go to:  

Or check out our What is Exploitation page.

WiSE isn’t a crisis service. If you are not safe please call 999.

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